Twin thoughts…..

Having a twin is fun….It’s like having a playmate, confidante and a sibling all rolled into one. Someone who understands you exactly and can talk in the same mental language that you have. Your world is complete, you are never really lonely and you don’t have to undertake the difficult task of befriending strangers to have a friend. Now this is until, yes until you start going to a school.

Schools declare twins have to be separated and be in different sections of the same class. So yes now its time to develop individual personalities, to emerge as independent, unique individuals. So school was not fun for Tara anymore, she hated being separated from Sara, her twin sister. She hated having to be away from her for even a single second. She shrank into her own world , resisted making friends and retreated to her corner only to come alive during play time, when she got to meet Sara and play with her.

Every morning became an agony for mum and Tara, as she put up her saddest face while getting ready for school and tried to stop her tears falling fast from her eyes. Mum tried talking but all she got as a response was “i don’t have any friends’. Mum was baffled as she had a group of friends in her earlier class. But Tara was not interested in making any, her best friend was taken away from her, Mum understood that and along with her teacher tried to help her through her struggle to be on her own and be a confident, independent individual.

To this day Tara is somewhat sad and Sara has taken all this in her stride. A study in contrast.

I wonder why this decision to separate twins, especially those sets which are identical. They were born together and meant to be together. Separating them makes one feel like they have lost a limb. Its an anguish which i can only imagine! Schools teach a dozen thing but they do not teach (and i have found out!) how to be happy. Tara would be happy if Sara was around her and isn’t it true that a happy individual is a stronger one??!!

What do you think?


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